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Honoring Change

Trusting Gender Identity A phase – a temporary process of discovery – can be a liberating period of one’s life and lead to genuine growth. By honoring “phases”, we allow children a safe space to change their mind or change their identity without backlash, repercussion or the infamous, “I told you so!”. Dismissal of phasesContinue reading “Honoring Change”

Insistent. Persistent. Consistent.

Supporting a Gender Non-Conforming Child by Thinking Outside the Guidelines Insistent. Persistent. Consistent. Community standards generally use these descriptions of behavior as a guideline or indicator that a child is serious about their gender identity. That being said, the absence of insistent, persistent and consistent articulation of one’s gender identity does not necessarily imply thatContinue reading “Insistent. Persistent. Consistent.”

Broken, We are Not

Transgender people aren’t having a hard time because they are transgender; they are having a hard time because society has decided that being transgender is a bad thing. People have drawn a conclusion in order to organize their own world and transgender people are caught in that crossfire. People bought into this negative view butContinue reading “Broken, We are Not”

Being Transgender is Not a Phase

Is Being Transgender “Just a Phase”? Let’s change the negative language and therefore, the stigma of being transgender. Is this a phase? Parents commonly ask when their child comes out as transgender. It is most likely not a phase. More on this here: https://www.hrc.org/resources/transgender-children-and-youth-understanding-the-basics For most parents this news usually comes as a shock butContinue reading “Being Transgender is Not a Phase”

Being Transgender from a More Spiritual Perspective

I’ve been on a more spiritual journey for a while now – getting into yoga, meditation, ecstatic dance, astrology and getting closer to a group of inspiring, spiritual people. The past three years (or more) have been defined by massive preoccupation with the outer, physical body, gender and ego and the next curve in myContinue reading “Being Transgender from a More Spiritual Perspective”

Will I Regret Testosterone?

I worried for years that taking testosterone or “transitioning” could be the wrong decision. What if NOT taking testosterone is the wrong decision? What if I came out to everybody then changed my mind? What if this was a mistake but I had permanent changes? What if I looked in the mirror and hated the personContinue reading “Will I Regret Testosterone?”

Positive Perspective for Parents of Transgender Children

“I don’t want my child to be transgender because I don’t want them to have a difficult life.” This is one of the most frequent things I hear parents say once they realize their child is transgender. Parents grieve “the good life” for their child, assuming that trans people all live hard, sad lives ofContinue reading “Positive Perspective for Parents of Transgender Children”

What Does it Mean to Be a Man?

Navigating the nuances of what it means to “Be Man Enough” and creating our own definitions Today was one of the best days of my life; I played pick up soccer with the guys, AS a guy. “Hey dude”, “hey man”, “he”, they all said. They saw me as one of them, as one ofContinue reading “What Does it Mean to Be a Man?”

Am I Transgender?

People usually think of “coming out” as an external thing – having to tell family and friends, but for me, “coming out” to myself was by far the hardest and most confusing battle and can’t be summarized in a single blog post. Growing up, my brother and I lacked strict gender expectations from our parents. Continue reading “Am I Transgender?”

What is Success Anyways?

Failure is Only Failure if We Define it as Such A great deal of time had to pass after starting testosterone before I was able to feel content with my transition. Guys around me who had been on testosterone for half the time, sported tons of facial hair and a deep voice. My voice didContinue reading “What is Success Anyways?”